Go for a walk with me; see what keeps me going on the path of higher self-work.
When I started on the journey of investing in my highest inner self, I knew there were secret parts of me that I wanted to no longer be a secret. I wanted my inner peace to be reflected outside to others as well.
One thing about me is that I always do things on my time. I’m a strong believer that timing is very important to long lasting effects. So despite someone giving me the best advice I could ever ask for, if I’m not ready to hear it, I jot it down (mentally or literally) and come back to it when I ‘m ready.
With so many outside influences, it’s hard to stay on a path of higher enlightenment if you’re not actively trying. I found I wouldn’t get anywhere if I passively thought about change. I had to implement small changes here and there. Three words that keep me on target are align, focus and push.
I align myself with readings, music and videos that encourage me and puts that extra pep in my step. I wake up every morning and listen to a motivational video. (Gary Vaynerchuk is my favorite inspiration at the moment.) I sign up for newsletters that are beneficial to me. The ones that give me guidance on my specific journey i.e. Life coaching. Sometimes, newsletters can become a bother. So ensure I “unsubscribe” to the ones that no longer serve me.
I align and detach from people. Align yourself with people who are on a similar journey and motivate and inspire you. Detach from people who should blatantly no longer be a part of your journey. Keeping them around is like tying an anchor to your foot and asking to stay in your old state of mind.
It can be challenging telling someone “we can no longer be friends” or “I need distance”, but it really is like tearing off a Band-Aid. Just do it. The longer you keep it on, the higher your chances of an infection. You get me? Choose you, always. Just be respectful about it. You don’t have to point out their flaws to detach from them. Make it about you and what you’re seeking to align yourself with.
Focus. When I see I’m getting distracted, I quickly focus my thoughts on something more positive or I try to see how I can use my current thoughts as a growth experience. The main things I like to focus on are positivity, growth and love of self. Love-of-self manifests in feeling pretty, paying attention to healthy eating habits, meditation, rejecting what others try to project onto me and love of others.
Push. Push yourself. We are able to accomplish more than we tend to think we can. Choose your ‘big goal’. Place it in your mind as a target. Now push yourself to get there by executing things one step at a time.
Imagine we are on the home stretch of our weekly walk. (After answering your calling, you can consider everything after as the homestretch. The hard part is genuinely committing.) We come ‘round the bend to tackle the hill (strategically placed at the end). What I’m not going to do is focus my eyes on the top of the hill because that immediately becomes overwhelming. I don’t do well with feeling overwhelmed. It makes me want to run the opposite direction.
Now, I choose to look at the steps in front of me. At times I look back to see how far I’ve come. To remind myself I’ve got this. If I’ve made it this far then there’s no reason to stop now. So on I go. One step in front of the other. One slab of concrete (task) a time. Positively reaffirming myself as I go along. Then, vuala! I’m at the top before I know it.
Always remember, you may start the walk with someone but you are never walking the same walk. To get the best out of your walk, continue to align, focus and push yourself.
Invest in yourself. Get the best of yourself!